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However careful you are while having sex, there could have been a slip and your children may catch you in the act. Don't panic in embarassment and do the wrong thing. Here are a few do's and dont's to deal with the situation.
Rule 1: Always lock the door
Make sure you lock the door in your private moment with each other. Rahul Mishra had just come back from a long tour and was happy to get back into bed with his wife Shruti. He has a 5 year-old son who sleeps in his own room. It was quite late and the couple expected their child to be fast asleep. But to their embarassment he was standing at the door – bewildered and afraid. Rahul and Shruti forgot to lock the door and their child caught them.
Rule 2: Talk to the child
First reaction of parents is embarassment and in panic they start to scold the child. Children, especiall the young ones who have no idea as to what sex is will see it as a violent act. So the first thing to do is to ask your child to go back to their room. Then both of you need to talk about the act or it may negatively affect their young mind. A 4 year-old child may see one of the parent as committing violence against the others and end up fearing him/her.
Rule 3: Clear doubts
No doubt it's embarassing, but for a balanced growth of the child it's important to explain what the act was all about. It's important to clear their doubts and come out openly about sexual needs and practise. Sex is an important part of adult life and in a situation where the parents are caught in the act they need to talk and explain things rather than staying silent.
Rule 4: Dont scold
Parents have the faulty instinct to scold the child after getting caught while having sex. This is mainly to hide their own embarrassment. But child psychologists have termed this behaviour to be wrong. The right thing to do is to firmly ask the child to leave the room. Make sure you don't raise your voice. Then go to the child and explain that your mom and dad had a very private moment and that no one would get hurt in the process.
Rule 5: Pacify your child
As your child grows, make it a point to tell them that as grownups you need private time in which they cannot be a part. When your child walks into the room and catches you in the act, they get frightened that thay have made a mistake and would be rebuked for it. So it's your duty to tell them it's ok and that it was your fault as you didn't lock the door. After that make efforts to re-establish the parent-child rapport.
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(AW: Pratima Tigga)
